Releasing Resentment, Embracing Light: A Soulful Guide to Forgiveness

Lately, I’ve been working on shifting my negative bias and embracing the “Let Them” theory alongside my usual mindfulness exercises. One of the most transformative practices I’ve carried with me since high school is the cord-cutting exercise. When I truly take it to heart and practice it, it has a profound effect on my emotional well-being. But since joining NWA, I’ve added a crucial step—flushing that severed tie with love and forgiveness before fully letting go. This small shift has been a game-changer in my healing journey.

One of my favorite affirmations is: “I send to you the fullness of the Divine love of my being to bless and prosper you.”* I absolutely love this. When I reflect upon my day, I find comfort and peace by visualizing anyone in my day who has been anything but loving and supportive surrounded by a violet light. I then visualize myself sending forth loving energy toward that individual and letting go of my hurt or frustration I may have felt. I also forgive myself for the way I reacted or for not reacting the way I wish I would have in hindsight. I then like to say, “I send to you the fullness of the Divine love of my being to bless and prosper you.” When I choose to send that love and light to that individual and myself – I find inner peace and even physically feel my heart rate slow and my shoulders drop in relaxation.

But here’s where I struggle—moving on from people. Forgiveness isn’t the issue for me; it’s knowing when to finally close the door. I always want to give second, third, and even fourth chances because I can see so many perspectives in every situation. Logically, I know that when there’s a cycle of hurt, a boundary is necessary. But emotionally? That’s another battle entirely.

The Wisdom of Knowing Who You’re For

Rebecca Campbell once wrote:

“The world is filled with people who, no matter what you do, will point blank not like you. But it is also filled with those who will love you fiercely. They are your people. You are not for everyone, and that’s OK. Talk to the people who can hear you.

Don’t waste your precious time and gifts trying to convince them of your value; they won’t ever want what you’re selling. Don’t convince them to walk alongside you. You’ll be wasting both your time and theirs and will likely inflict unnecessary wounds, which will take precious time to heal. You are not for them, and they are not for you; politely wave them on and continue along your way. Sharing your path with someone is a sacred gift; don’t cheapen it by rolling yours in the wrong direction.”

This deeply resonated with me. It’s a reminder that I need to keep facing my true north, even when I second-guess myself. I forgive. I send love. And I keep moving forward. But then the doubt creeps in—should I be putting myself out there more? If I politely wave someone by but don’t engage, am I failing to share my light? And then I have to forgive myself for simply protecting my peace!

The Spiritual Tightrope: “Do No Harm, But Take No Sh*t”

The deeper I go into my spiritual journey, the harder it becomes to balance my desire to be a light with my need to protect my energy. I never want to cause harm – yet I find myself letting things slide more and more because getting frustrated simply does not serve me. But here’s the paradox—letting too much go can lead to suppressed frustration, which is its own form of harm.

I used to believe in standing up for what’s right at all costs. Right is right, and wrong is wrong. But now, every time I stand up for myself, it seems to backfire. And while I’m proud of standing my ground, the aftermath often leaves me feeling drained. So, I turn to my go-to technique: the Purple Flame meditation, using it to release both their actions and my own reactions.

Growth is a Lifelong Journey

If you’ve followed my journey, you know that this isn’t a new path for me—it’s one I’ve been walking for years. But every so often, I feel a shift. A new perspective. A new tool. And that’s what keeps me moving forward.

So here’s my takeaway: Keep facing your true north. Forgive. Send love. Set boundaries. Protect your peace. And when in doubt, remember—you are not for everyone, and that’s perfectly okay.

Keep Facing Your True North

Have you struggled with letting go or finding balance in your spiritual journey? I’d love to hear how you navigate it!

Here’s a link to a YouTube Short that you can use between classes or meetings—during a quick break or while running an errand. Exploring different tools to center yourself is essential for achieving harmony and alignment in mind, body, and soul.

https://youtube.com/shorts/OC9atukO5yk?si=KWK7vVmLPMpfXtcR”

*From Volume 3, “The I Am Discourses” Godfre Ray King

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