Pinpointing What’s Non-Negotiable


What’s Non-Negotiable?

A “non-negotiable habit” can be defined as being a behavior that is holding us back from what we truly want to achieve — be it better health, more vital energy, more success, greater abundance, or better relationships. Something that we are presently doing needs to change for us to get there and we can no longer justify or rationalize as to why we are not doing it. We also established that an awful lot of mind energy is expended on feeling bad that we are not doing it.

One of the most powerful things you can do is eavesdrop on the tug-o-war between warring factions in your own mind. (Although we often perceive our “self” as being singular, we are really made up of a lot of different facets, just like a jewel.)

For example, one side is vigorously resisting your urge to change, and that seems to hold you back from taking affirmative action. The other side cheers you on as it carries a higher vision of yourself and aspires for you to grow. While you remain caught in the middle between them a vast amount of your energy is being drained. Therefore, it’s no wonder you haven’t been able to motivate yourself to make those changes!

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Turning Resolutions Into Realities

 Recipe for Mind
Did you know that the average life span of a New Year’s resolution is less than three weeks?  The reason that they tend to fizzle out as quickly as New Year’s Eve champagne is that most of us have not been schooled in the dynamics of the subconscious mind.

Whether you want to break a persistent negative habit, like overeating or choosing the wrong foods, or create a positive one such as getting on a regular exercise program or being more organized, the secret of success lies in making the new behavior second nature to you.

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Fall Clearing – “Manageable Moments”

Recipe for Mind

This year has passed in such a whirlwind that I didn’t stop long enough to do a proper spring cleaning.  I am not what anyone would call obsessive-compulsive about cleaning, but I do recognize the power of releasing clutter – something that inevitably builds up in many nooks and crannies of my home and office.

My good friend and colleague, Dr. Mary Bryant told me the other day that “a good definition of mental health is the process of creating order out of chaos.”  I know that one of the main principles of the “space-clearing” or Western school of feng shui is about getting rid of clutter as the number one priority in creating a healthy, productive and supportive working/living space.  (Here’s an article I wrote about a decade ago on the benefits organizing through feng shui.)

So I decided that I would do a “Fall Clearing” as opposed to spring cleaning.  But I also realized that it didn’t have to be done “all at once” in a frenzy, my usual modus operandi.  It’s a fact of human nature – when we anticipate having to do something that is not our favorite pastime, we tend to procrastinate and resist.

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